Making the Decision for Mom to Move In With You

Elderly Care in McKinney, TX – 3 Accounts of Families Handling this Important Decision

Have you been agonizing over the decision of whether to move your mom in with you? An aging person is going to have different needs than the children you still have at home. Will you be getting in over your head? Will you worry just as much about your mom when you are at work each day whether she’s in your home or hers?

Before moving your mom into your home, make a list of questions and considerations. Carefully think out the reason why you are considering moving her in. Is it for a reason that could just as easily be solved if she were to stay in her own home?

Here are three examples of how families made the decision based on their circumstances:

Ronald and Marie – they considered moving Ronald’s aging father into their home because he had seemed confused lately. They were worried that it was the beginning of dementia. Ronald’s father had been independent for so long and had always wanted to remain in his own home, so it was a difficult decision for the family. Ronald decided to take his father to the doctor and get his opinion. As it turned out, there was a medication interaction the doctor was able to easily fix. The confusion disappeared and the family didn’t need to move their elderly loved one out of his home. They decided instead, to have an elder care provider go in a few hours each day to provide some companionship.

Eleanor – her mother lived in another city but was becoming quite frail and needed some daily help for bathing, dressing and fixing meals. She already had a housekeeper who washed floors and did the laundry and vacuuming. Eleanor was putting off the decision to move her mother in with her because her mom had so many life-long friends in her own neighborhood. A move would be very difficult for her, yet Eleanor knew her mom needed more help. Eleanor contacted elder care services in her mom’s city and arranged for an elderly care provider to spend a few hours each day helping her mom with bathing, dressing and preparing meals.

Tim and Stacie – their children had all grown and moved out of the house leaving a large empty home. They had considered downsizing to a smaller home but just couldn’t bear to leave all the memories behind. At about the same time, Stacie’s aging parents were starting to need more and more care. Tim and Stacie were both still working full-time so they were trying to come up with a plan that would work for everyone. They decided that with a little bit of remodeling, they could make a suite in their house for Stacie’s parents. Because they both wanted to continue working, they hired elder care services to provide a caregiver during the day while Tim and Stacie were both at work. The caregiver’s shift would end when Tim and Stacie arrived home from work to fix dinner.